We’ve all grown up with different backgrounds, submerged into different cultures, and taught different values. But one thing remains consistent, we were born with a love of self and somewhere along the way we lost parts of it. Some people began losing pieces of the self love puzzle early, some later, and some still have most of their pieces, where others have lost them all. We are all human and flawed and can use some encouragement every now and then. So please use this letter as a love note- to yourself.
Who you are is enough. It is beautiful to have dreams, goals and ambition for your life, but you do not need to recreate yourself in order to fulfill them. You were already created one billion percent unique, there is no one else in the world like you, so this world needs what you have. Please don’t listen to the, “you need to be skinnier, curvier, smarter, faster, prettier, more athletic, more creative, blah, blah, blahs”, start with what you have and give it all you got.
It’s hard to be happy when someone is mean to you all of the time, especially if that someone is you. Speak kindly to yourself and about yourself. You are going to be your own best friend for the rest of your life, so may as well get along. Obsess over the things you love about yourself rather than the things you wish you could change. Be patient with yourself, change does not happen overnight, you will get there, but it takes time.
You do not need anyone else to validate your life. No one can confirm that you are worthy of love, your existence on this earth is all the confirmation you need. It is great to find people that understand you and that you can easily do life with. However, people will fail you, and you will fail people, not always on purpose, but we are all human. So when this happens, please remember that these things don’t take away from who you are. Another person’s words or actions cannot make you any less. Your life is significant and it matters.
Do not be afraid of vulnerability and emotion. Often we consider these two things a weakness, but I find that they are strengths. They allow us to empathize with others, and bring a greater level of self awareness as to how we’ve gotten this far in the first place.
Lastly, own your story. I’m sure it’s a good one, and I’m sure it wasn’t easy- you are probably a lot stronger than you’ve even realized. Not all stories are fairytales (actually hardly any are), and most likely the person sitting beside you is going through something similar. Allowing yourself to embrace who you are and what you’ve been through will empower others to do the same.
You are so loved,