Facing Rejection Like a PRO
While this may seem like a negative place to start for my first blog post, I wanted to get to it right away because so much of modeling has to do with facing rejection!
Hawaii models are lucky because the network here is quite small so the average model doesn’t need to “audition” for many jobs that become available. Either they already have their connections or have done enough jobs that photographers, designers, and artists have seen their images and know if they want to book them or not. But, what if you’re new to modeling (YAY!) or Hawaii (YAY!!) or you don’t have any connections (TRIPLE YAY!!!)? I can speak on all three, because that was me! And, what that meant for me is that I had to go to a lot of castings and face a lot of rejection. Just to be clear, the castings I went to weren’t always for modeling- some were for acting in commercials and did I mention, I can’t act? So, yeah that makes me an EXPERT on rejection. And, even though it’s true that many successful models in Hawaii and elsewhere don’t rely solely on castings for jobs, it doesn’t mean that once upon a time they didn’t have to drag their gangly bodies to an audition and pose awkwardly in front of a camera. And, it doesn’t mean that they’re completely exempt from rejection, because they will have to attend castings for big money jobs- Victoria’s Secret, anyone? Plus, castings aren’t the only place people experience rejection, but for the purposes of keeping it simple, that’s what I will focus on for today. OK- so let’s get started.
The first thing you need to understand is the very nature of the industry. Every time you go to an audition or reach out to someone on social media, it’s like applying for a job. And, let’s face it- the average person doesn’t apply for a job over and over again. They simply get a job and keep it. But, par for the course for the model is to attend 2, 3, 10, 15, 30 castings a month depending on job availability and how ambitious you are. And, because you applied for a job a fair amount of times- you’re going to get rejected a fair amount of times. It only makes sense! Think of modeling like job- hunting except it never ends :O You will suffer through more rejection in 30 days as a model than some people do their entire existence!
The KEY is to be able to move past the “no’s” and adopt an “I don’t give a SH*T” attitude! You know that je nais se quoi the whole industry adores? ;)
I remember when I first started going to castings, I would agonize over every detail of the audition as soon as I left. I would think about what I said or should’ve said, the way the casting directors looked at me, my nervous smile, that awkward glance- the list goes on. But, gosh darnit- there’s no time for that! Once you’re done you’re done and it’s up to the casting directors and clients to decide! Or, if you reached out to someone on social media and you didn’t get a response- forget about it. Seriously. The quicker that you can learn to do that- the more successful you’re going to be! You know why? Because, the time you spend mulling over why you don’t get that job could be time you spend toward making yourself a better model/ actor/ actress- whatever!
If they don’t choose you, you can’t always take it personally. Maybe you didn’t fit the look. Maybe they decided to play it safe and book someone they know or has experience in swimwear or bridal editorial or whatever. Or, maybe they made the wrong decision. Either way, there’s a lot of maybes and not enough certainty so there’s no point in trying to figure it out! Just show up. Be You. And be happy to be there.
My last word of advice would be to please, please not base your self-worth on your looks. Why would you ever want to limit yourself? Yes, the modeling industry can provide you with some of the coolest experiences you’ll have in your lifetime, but the world is a big place and you are a unique individual oozing with potential. Don’t let the personal tastes and whims of a select few people dictate how you feel about yourself. Don’t let rejection get the best of you. Be kind to yourself, love yourself, and be willing to work hard. Eventually, enough no’s will find their way into a yes. And, sometimes one yes can make all the difference. Good luck! ;)
Mudra // @mudra_love